Shedding Stress...Getting it all done without multi-tasking

By Julia Di Nardo

From the minute you wake up, the mile long to-do list in your mind starts screaming for your attention. Who hasn't returned phone calls while ironing, checked email while watching TV, or helped their kids with homework while getting dinner ready? As a parent, you are quite possibly overwhelmed with too many commitments, loads of responsibilities, and if you're a working mom, two full-time jobs. To get it all done, you probably multitask on a regular basis.

Think this is saving you valuable time and making you more productive? Think again.

Why Multitasking Doesn't Work

There's no such thing as multitasking when it comes to attention and concentration. Cognitive scientists have shown that our attention can only focus on one thing at a time. Multitasking is actually just constant task-switching - each time you run back to stir the sauce, your focus on your child's math problem is interrupted. On the whole, doing two things at the same time takes longer, causes more mistakes, and can even be dangerous (think texting while driving). Taken together, these can actually raise the stress levels you're trying so hard to avoid.

How to Get More Done Without Multitasking

Use "background tasking:" Unlike multitasking, in which each task requires your full attention, background tasking combines one mindless task with one that requires concentration. Listening to audiobooks, self-improvement CDs or podcasts during your daily commute is a great way to stay inspired and informed during time that would otherwise be wasted.

Chunk your tasks: Most of the things we do on a weekly basis fall into a few categories. Running errands, paying bills and making phone calls, all take less time if you group them together, preferably at the same time and day each week. Batch cooking is also a wonderful timesaver; spend 4-5 hours on a Sunday afternoon to cook your meals for the week, saving you hours otherwise spent chopping and cleaning up each night. Choose meals that freeze well and are easy to reheat.

Create focus and flow: Before sitting down to do something that requires a lot of concentration, take a few moments to breathe and get "in the zone." A regular mindfulness practice such as yoga or meditation can help develop this skill. This will create more peace (and less procrastination) around your least favourite tasks.

Do more by doing less: Yes, I'm sure you've heard it before, but focusing on your priorities and saying no to extra commitments will help you achieve more. By focusing on activities you enjoy and are good at, and delegating the tasks better done by someone with the skill and desire to do them, everybody wins. It will also give you more time to spend with your family, without that nagging voice reminding you of your unfinished chores.

If you find yourself constantly saying "yes" when you really mean "no," or if your stress levels are bordering on panic and acute anxiety, it may be time to consider getting help. Consult your family physician or find a therapist you can trust.

Julia Di Nardo, Psychotherapist, www.healthehunger.com, 514.963.4814